hello loves! happy Monday! how was everyone's weekend? please, don't tell me about how beautiful the weather was and what you did outside to enjoy it - it's too early for that! personally, I had a gorg brunch outside at Bistro 33 in Sac with my boo, then we got down and dirty (minds out of the gutter, people!) at the house. I tackled the kitchen (pictures to come tomorrow - I promise!) while boo went after the yards. I was covered in dust and dead spider legs, but by the end of the day, I was pretty satisfied with the work I did! definitely not done - the kitchen still needs paint and some serious remodeling, but for now, I'm a happy camper! even the munchkin got in on the action!
today, I want to address something that's very near and dear to my heart. as a hairstylist, there are always things I want to say to my clients that I can either not find the correct words for, or that I'd rather not say for the sake of sounding rude. I found this article on MSN and I found it to be pretty much dead on with tackling those uncomfortable situations. you can see the actual article here but I've put down the meat of it below. please read and remember to take this list into consideration the next time you visit the salon!
1. I probably can't give you a celebrity's hairstyle.
Yes, we'd all love Jennifer Aniston's shiny, sun-kissed locks. But even if your stylist can match a celeb's color and cut, she can't give you access to the team of professionals that the rich and famous have fixing their hair before every appearance. Bringing in pictures is great, but be open to adaptations that take into account your hair texture and bone structure. If you go in expecting a carbon copy of a red carpet style, “you may be very disappointed,” says Don Bewley, cofounder of Eufora International Haircare in Carlsbad, California.
2. Tell me exactly what “a little bit” means—even if you feel like you're being nitpicky.
“We're not mind readers!” says Brittany Molina, owner of Brittany's Spa Salon in Jacksonville, Florida. Be prepared to talk specifics with your stylist. Saying, “Just don't go too short” isn't helpful. Show your stylist the exact length you want your hair. And if you request she take off two inches, make sure your definition of “two inches” is the same as hers.
3. Please respect my time.
“A busy hairdresser's time is very valuable,” says Bewley. Being five minutes late can throw off your stylist's entire day. If you're running late, call. And never pull a no-show. On the same note, don't phone at the last minute and ask to get “squeezed in.” Your stylist will likely try to accommodate you, but it may mean staying late or rushing to finish another client first.
4. I love getting to know my clients — to a point.
Don't assume your stylist is eager to listen to you vent about your divorce or your overbearing boss. “After 10 clients a day, everyone's problems start to weigh on us!” says Bewley. Try to keep the conversation centered on fashion, beauty or wellness. And remember: This is your time to relax and feel beautiful — and your stylist's time to focus on your hair.
5. A salon is not a daycare center.
“Kids should not be brought to a salon unless they're getting a service,” says Michael Boychuck, the personal hair colorist of Paris Hilton and owner of Las Vegas salons Color, Amp and Primp. Salons do their best to be kid-friendly, but stylists can't focus on their clients and keep hot irons and chemicals out of little hands. Leave your dog at home, too, urges Emily Howard, owner of Moxie Parlour in San Francisco, California. It's against the law to have animals in salons, so don't bring one in unless you're willing to pay a hefty fine on the salon's behalf.
6. Put down your cell phone. And your lunch.
Turn off your cell phone before the start of your appointment, recommends Molina. “Not only is your conversation distracting to other customers,” she says, “your hairstylist can't do her job if you're reaching for your phone or moving your head from side to side.” And try not to eat when you're getting your hair done, urges Boychuck. The constant motion isn't doing your stylist — or your hair — any favors.
7. I'm pushing my salon's products because they're better for your hair—not to make a few bucks.
Your stylist stocks products he believes in. It's frustrating for him to see a client pay good money for great color or a trendy cut but then buy drugstore shampoo and conditioner to save a few bucks. Your stylist can tell you exactly what you need to maintain your hair — and save you from playing the drugstore guessing game. “I'm here to give you the right advice,” says Bewley. “And I'll gladly exchange anything that's not working for you.”
8. You know your hair better than anyone—tell me about it!
If you're visiting a stylist for the first time, be upfront about your hair's history, says Dickey, founder of the Hair Rules Salon in New York City. Did your last hairdresser use a relaxer? Do you know what he colored your hair with? The more information you have, the better. Previous chemical treatments will affect how the next ones set. And if you have especially thick hair, let the receptionist know when you book your appointment so she can allot enough time for you.
9. If you like my work, please let other people know!
“Referrals are hairstylists' lifeblood,” says Bewley. If you're happy with your cut or color, tell your friends and coworkers. Passing on referrals can be mutually beneficial: If a new client comes in on your recommendation, your stylist will likely give you a discount the next time you visit the salon.
10. You're a walking billboard for my work.
Don't go too long between colorings or let your haircut lose its shape. Your hair should be a positive reflection of your stylist's work. If you're not sure how to style a new cut once you get home, go back and ask questions, urges Bewley. Your hairdresser wants you to look good, and would be more than happy to teach you the proper styling and finishing tips.
thank you for reading, my loves! myself, along with your hairstylist, thank you for taking all of these into consideration!!
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These area all so great. I was a manicurist so I never had to fear most of this from my clients or help them - bottom line if they hated the color it just took some polish remover to fix it.
ReplyDeleteI usually come prepared to a salon with photos of what I'd like my hair to look like. Over the years I've learned that A) I can't have Jennifer A hair unless I want the original Rachel Hair from Friends! (Mine is way too thick and my old hairstylist broke it down to me... she said I can thin out your hair to be like hers but you'll have to get it done a lot and it will just make your hair go frizzy with all the curl you have.
A good thing is always being able to tell your hairstylist the truth. If you get a great cut that requires blow drying to be smooth and beautiful - if you hate drying your hair straight DON'T GET THAT CUT OR ASK FOR IT! I have the thickest, heaviest hair and it's naturally wavy - thank goodness for the new boho styles! I'm in heaven right now! I can wash my hair, let it dry wavy and then hit it with a curling iron - NO need to torture my hair or myself more than needed.
That being said I really wish I could find someone that was good with curly hair. My issue - I change my mind like my underwear about my hair - every damn day. I want a cut that looks good straight and curly.
I'm finally at peace with the head of hair God gave me, I think that speaks volumes for being happier about it too.
ANd you are so right ... you have to show someone what you mean by A LITTLE bit cut off. I made the mistake of saying one inch one day... my inch and her inch were not the same!
Just read this article and I loved it! So very true!
ReplyDeleteKelly - ask for round layers! as a fellow curly haired girl, I understand your pain! round layers keep hair from getting that mushroom/pyramid shape. also, tell your stylist to keep them long - as we know, the shorter the layers are cut when they're wet, the bigger the hair when it's dry! this will also keep your hair from being too heavy on the bottom. keep those curls free, don't weight them down with all the weight on the bottom! once my hair grows out a little longer (beauty school mistake - gotta love those!), I'll have it curly more often, too!
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Thank you girl! ox
ReplyDeletejessica, you live in sac? how did i not know this! i used to live there back in 04, senior year of college. i freaking LOVED it! you mentioned bistro 33. is that the same as 33rd street bistro? because i loved that place. chop chop salad baby!
ReplyDeletewhen i lived there i worked as a receptionist for a salon and became friends with all the stylists so i can understand all these rules. i, especially, would talk shit about the annoying clientele. haha.
Mayra - I actually don't live in Sac! the boo lives in Elk Grove and since it's kind of a poo hole, we go to Sac quite often. I don't think it's the same as 33rd Street Bistro, it's at the opposite corner as Mikuni's downtown. Ernesto's is my personal fav for dinner and we're wanting to hit Hangar for brunch one Sunday - have you ever been??
ReplyDeleteat one of the salons where I worked as a receptionist, then as an esthetician, we had a 'poopy list' at the front desk LOL.
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Love your pointers! I just got a quick trim the other day and it seems I followed all the rules. What salon do you work at? And are you familiar with any non-chemical (vegetable dyes) that work well?
ReplyDeleteDebbie - I work at a salon in a town just north of Modesto. I'm not familiar with non-chemical coloring systems. my massage therapist uses henna color on her hair, but every line I've looked into turns an orangy red color. since the colors are natural based, the majority of them have either a high red or high ash content to them, which is what most people want to stay away from. I have yet to hear of a fantastic non-chemical based line. if I ever do, I'll let you know!
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i loe this. bc u are honest with me and say danielle i cannot do that lol.
ReplyDeleteif you can have jess do your hair shes amazing! :)
aww thanks lover :)
ReplyDeletemiss your whole face.
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